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I wrote this poem four years ago for right now.🙏🏻 . Following feminine wisdom means understanding natural cycles and trusting your own rhythm. . There is a time and a season for everything under the sun. . A time to pour out and a time to recharge. . Time to be the life of the party and a time to be a nun in her hermitage. . Here is me honoring that. . I’m committing to a social media sabbath for the remainder of the summer and inviting you to do the same (if that feels in alignment with your own soul). . Don’t be sad. Get excited. We don’t have to live in FOMO. We can choose JOMO (Joy Of Missing Out). . If someone or something in your life is whispering to you, “just be here with me”, know you have everything you need within you to say, “okay, yes, I will.” 🌱 . See you in a bit! #justbeherewithme #femininewholeness
Yes, mamas, teach your daughters to be kind... But also teach them to take no shit. My #emmanuellepoem I love you so. Keep all that attitude. I love it. #raisingstrongwomen
For anyone who needs this reminder as much as I do. YOU ARE NOT MISSING OUT ON ANYTHING WHEN YOU ARE LISTENING TO & HONORING THE RHYTHM OF YOUR OWN SOUL. . T - 24 hours till I’m off the social media grid for the summer. . I have a mama-daughter date with someone really special today. Heading to San Diego and gonna do a lot of singing and smiling with my Emma girl. Wind in our hair. May you have a beautiful day, too. May you feel so much joy and excitement for whatever it means to you to “get your shit together.” And may you have courage wherever you need it. 💪🏼🙏🏻💗
Emotional Housecleaning Wash Cycle #1: The Dark Load I feel ANGRY that women are still held to impossible beauty standards. I feel SAD that I’ve spent all my adult life trying to measure up and rarely feeling enough. I feel AFRAID that the older I get the less relevant I’ll become. I feel GUILTY that I’ve been complicit in the problem in how society views women as sex objects. Unreasonable Expectation: That I get my value and safety from being perceived as sexually desirable. Essential Pain: If I stop being noticed and validated by others I’ll have to start really seeing and validating myself. Reasonable Expectation: My sense of security comes from choosing myself, not being chosen by others. Reward: Joy! I’m okay just as I am! I’m allowed to delight in myself because delight feels good in my body, not because I earned it by winning someone else’s approval. I HEAL my own gaze. I heal MY own gaze. I heal my own GAZE. ....And I SEE how FREE I actually can be. I FEEL how FREE I can actually be. I OWN how FREE it’s time to be for the liberation of women everywhere. And now, a new wash cycle... Wash Cycle #2: The Light Load I feel GRATEFUL that I’m alive and I get to learn more and more about love—how to love and how to receive real love from myself and others. I feel HAPPY that I can belong to my own body and I do not feel shame anymore. I feel SECURE that I have the right tools to help me heal and grow. I feel PROUD that I am awakening and ever braver to do this work of healing my own gaze for myself, my daughter my mother, and all women everywhere. Now, it’s your turn. Take this post as a template to run through own wash cycles and do some emotional house cleaning. I’m so grateful to be learning EBT (Emotional Brain Training). I’ll be weaving it in to my 1-on-1 coaching sessions this fall. EBT combined with hypnotherapy is a powerful combo to rewire joy back into our being. I’ll be doing a lot of this for myself on my break from social media. Getting stronger for myself and the women I’m called to mentor and lead. We have so much more power within than we have even begun to tap. Use whatever tools you have right now. DM me before Friday if
I’ve been feeling this for a real, long awhile, but I have been listening to superficial shoulds and deep-seated fear more than my own soul: . The need for a creative sabbath. (And if I’m honest, it’s more than just a creative sabbath, it’s a healing sabbath I need to make the time and space for if I’m gonna make the next turn of this spiral). . I’ve come to experience the wholeness journey as a deepening spiral. Sometimes we are traveling along a patch that faces us outward and it feels right to give, shine, create, launch, and connect generously with the outside world. And then that leg comes to an end, and the spiral swerves inward, demanding we turn towards center and face the next layer of our onion-like being if we are gonna keep moving forward. . I’ve been stalled out at here at this next curve for too long. Part of me resisting and hoping there was some way to make it toward center walking backwards, still facing the crowds instead of facing myself. . As all of you who are doing your own inner work know, there are so many layers to this healing! I wish the whole thing was once-and-done like peeling a banana instead of working through an onion, but that is not how it’s ever worked for me. . I am so committed to helping you experience delight and freedom in your feminine wholeness. My desire is to show you it’s possible to change how you see yourself and how you perceive sex, your own sexuality and womanhood. One way specifically I want to do that is through teaching more women how to heal their own gaze through #sexyselfiesexysoul practice. . But here is the truth: I need do this even deeper for myself right now. Teaching the beta round of the course I bumped up upon a really gnarly layer of the onion: the lens of misogyny and how much it has affected how I value what I see in the mirror and what’s possible for me to accomplish as a woman. This is so hard to confront as I don’t know how big this monster is and what it will take to unwed him. . What I do know is I’m not alone in this. It’s part of what we are dealing with together as women in these very interesting and challenging times. Continue...
I did something last night I vehemently regard as a NO- NO. . I brought my phone to bed with me 😱 and when I couldn’t sleep I opened up Instagram 😱 and scrolled 😱, scrolled😱, scrolled😱, scrolled😱. . I broke my own rules. And even with the consequences I’m paying today 😴 I am so grateful I “did something I shouldn’t do.” . Because in all that scrolling I found the answer to a prayer I have desperately been praying for weeks. . “Where did you go, God? I cannot find you where I used to look for you. How do I recognize you now?” . Tucked quietly in a post by a beautiful young women who shared four days with me on a Sophia Retreat many moons ago, words my searching “Bad Girl Christian” soul needed to hear: . “And what does God look like? A memory of the last time you felt whole.” - @laurenwrites . Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Hallelujah. . God via my own felt sense of wholeness. . Thank God! . The faith I thought I lost is right here. Held safe in my own feminine wholeness. Still real in my own feminine wholeness. Still present to guide me through my own feminine wholeness. . What a gift to have each other’s words in the lonely silence of the night. Thank you to each of you out there sharing your wisdom, not knowing if anyone is on the other side listening. You don’t have to be an “influencer” (whatever that means! 🤮) to help another woman feel seen and encouraged and less alone. . I still don’t recommend late night scrolling as way of life, but I’m so grateful I broke my own rules last night. . I got what I needed by “being bad”: I was reminded how good I am, what a gift this community is to me, and how close the deepest desires of my heart actually are: God. Wholeness. Connection. Hope. . . . I love you. Thank you. Keep reminding one another of the truth. Your voice matters so much. 🙏🏻 Ps. And don’t be afraid to break some rules—even your own. Maybe this is what it looks like to #trusttheprocess.
And the “her” refers to your own body and soul. She needs you to treat her like the work of art she is. 🎨🙏🏻 #sexyselfiesexysoul #femininewholeness
“Love is a benevolent process where two people try to teach each other how to become the very best version of themselves.” . Feminine wholeness feeds masculine wholeness. *Ladies, the work you are doing for your own healing is also for the healing of your relationship. . Masculine wholeness feeds feminine wholeness. *Gents, same goes for you. . Male. Female. We are in this together. Two poles within ourselves; two poles between each other. Infinite degrees of nuance and subtlety between. The work of integration is inter and intra personal. Messy and beautiful. Cosmic and local. Exhausting and restorative. The end and the beginning. . If you have a partner in your life who is doing this work with you, celebrate them below. 💗