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May our dreams of feminine wholeness include the dream of Mama Earth Wholeness. Us gals gotta stick together! Happy #earthday2019 💗🌍💗
I’m in teacher mode this morning and let’s just get right to it. . We are gonna use this image as a teaching moment...because there is something about it that is a bit problematic and we need to address it if we are gonna do this #sexyselfiesexysoul thing in earnest. . Not all selfies are created equal. Not all selfies are healing. Sometimes selfies don’t serve us at all. . I’ve taken plenty of this kind of selfie. And there is no judgement on you if you have too. Its part of the process— the messy, complicated part where we untangle ourselves from the patriarchy and see ourselves as subjects again instead of objects, free to be unconventional in our beauty, instead of stereotypes. . And this is easier said than done. Because it’s not black and white— it’s a matter of power and heart, function and intention. . For instance, when a woman belongs to herself, and owns her sexuality, stereotype is transformed into archetype. . However, when a woman is searching for herself in a man’s gaze alone, or societies small frame of beauty, the Divine Feminine becomes a mud flap girl. . I want you to understand that you hold the power. And you continue to hold that power until you give it away. But even if you have given it away knowingly or unknowingly you can still take it back. . That’s what healing your gaze is about. That’s what we get to do through this very “of our time” practice of the Sexy Selfie. . We get to become students of ourself. Curious about our own culture. Critical thinkers of our own life. Intellectuals and priestesses of sex. Mindfully considering what we do and why we do it. . Why? . Because we are into being smart, not just sexy. And we get that this is bigger than just being able to take a hot photo. This is about taking our power back. . The problematic thing about this photo is that I know the full woman wasn’t present. She disappeared her deeper self to fit neatly in the “Maxim Magazine” box. She became a stereotype in hopes to please someone else. And that ain’t sexy. . I share this with you not to encourage you to judge other women/yourself, but to appreciate the nuance of it all... and to know it’s okay to be #womaninprogress.
One Easter, a long time ago, I made up my own philosophy on Romance & Adventure—one that didn’t require my life to look anything like a fairytale or a Hollywood movie, which was helpful for a single mom like me. . My personal R&A philosophy was based on four simple principles that gave me a sense of agency to love and hope no matter what. Every Easter I like to remember them, because it was the cosmic reality of Easter that inspired them. Life can always begin again. Every dark season that has been redeemed, , every hurt I’ve caused that has been forgiven, every death of my own identity and embodied awakening into a truer version of me. Life has begun again for me 1000 times and so I no longer doubt it. I fall to my knees in gratitude. 🐣 I love Easter so much. . Write these on your heart: 1. You are made for true romance and meaningful adventure. . (You aren’t disqualified for any reason!) . 2. Your heart is good (and so is your body). . (Shame is a lie!) . 3. Life can always begin again. . (Your past does not define you). . 4. Come what may, love more not less. . (You are way more powerful than you even know).
Gosh, I love these guys! and I love this photo because it’s a 🤳 that captures me in one of my other natural habitats...being a goofy mom. 🤱🏼 . I wanted to share it with you all because my insta feed has been heavy heavy heavy on the sexy selfie thing lately because I’m gearing up to teach the course (and I’m promoting the heck out of it ‘cause I know it’s gonna rock your world!) BUT sexy selfies ain’t all that I am. . I want you to get to know this side of me too...the mama! The one who makes school lunches, takes her kiddos to dentist appointments, and sweeps the floor (because she actually LOVES to sweep. In italian “to sweep” is actually a idiom for “doing 😍 it” but I digress). . It’s probably true that the other moms at my kids’ school don’t really know what to do with me and they keep their distance, but that’s okay. I focus on my kids not their opinions. . I’m a mama my own way. And I love being a mama. I love singing my Emma girl awake with the song from Cinderella “A dream is a wish your heart makes” and rubbing my sons back when we are snuggling on the couch (he is 12 but still my baby!) . Where I am going with all of this is just to say every part of who you are as a woman belongs. That’s the heart of Feminine Wholeness! And you can do each part however feels right to you. Permission to reinvent motherhood. Permission to reinvent WOMANHOOD! . Personally my goal is to embrace it and enjoy it all. Grateful for the mama in me, the sex pot in me, the aspiring saint in me, the bad girl, the bougie glamour girl, the goofball, the intellectual, the playful wife, and the badass business woman. . This is my kind of wholeness. Thank you for being a part of it. 💗 . . #femininewholeness#sexyselfiesexysoul
Amen, @therefinedwoman. . Thank God this Good Friday that LIFE CAN BEGIN AGAIN—and that we can feel peaceful, happy and free as a woman instead of anxious all the time. (I talk about it in my previous post—the one where you can see the old lady wrinkles on my arm. It’s cool. Instead of deleting it—because oh my gosh, imperfections!😱— I ran my anti-anxiety protocol and just let it be). Easter is in a couple days and hallelujah! anxiety is not our destiny, wholeness is. 🙌🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻
Anxiety. . I feel it like a black hole🕳 in my solar plexus. Instantly I am falling through the floor and I keep falling. It’s a feeling of being swallowed by something so much bigger than me and at the same time being suffocated. My body constricts and I am frozen. I lose all feeling but my heart beat. I cannot cry because I cannot breathe. . Have you ever felt this way? Do you know anxiety like I do? . I have become intimate with this state. I know how to move inside of it now. I know how to transmute the black hole to portal. And this has been the key to my exponential healing and growth... . To go towards the trigger because the trigger is the shortcut. The fears I thought would end me are the boons that transform me. . It sounds like magic and it feels like magic but it’s simple science. . Research shows anxiety hangs out on only one side of the brain. The right hemisphere. It’s a state of hyper focus, not unlike hypnosis. It’s the darkside to the Flow state, where the brain is on high alert—obsessive alert— on everything that can go wrong. Anxiety a hypnotic state of fear. . What’s beautiful about that is once we know this, we can begin to dissolve and dismantle this clusterfuck of firing neurons with simple techniques. Techniques even my 7 year old daughter can use. . I am passionate about women reclaiming their wholeness. And I think THE most powerful place to do that is at the intersection of sexuality and spirituality. Why? Because it’s laden with triggers. Portals of power disguised as black holes of panic attacks. . I am listening to you. . Last week you told me about your anxieties around the whole #sexyselfie thing. The visceral reaction that comes unwanted after scrolling and seeing another woman’s body. A rush of heat and nausea and storm of fear... - Panicked thoughts of comparison created by a culture that defines beauty in such narrow terms. - Panicked thoughts of sin conditioned by fear-based religion. - Panicked thoughts of being unchosen by the one you love the most, encouraged by a culture that pits women against woman and teaches the lie that when one is shining the other shines less. . Now that I know...(cont. in comments)
In all my years online creating products, courses, and workshops for you NEVER has something had so much immediate impact as this #sexyselfiesexysoul thing! Here is what I’m hearing: . “I feel like a totally different person, but more of the REAL ME- so alive, so sensual!” . “I took some sexy selfies and gave myself time to feel sexy in my own body and it really had a positive effect on my husband and I’s sex life!” . ”I am a single woman and never knew how to connect to my own sexuality before (being taught it was only for a man). Now I feel liberated!” . “I decided to try my hand at a soulful Sexy Selfie and my heart was so pleased by what my eyes saw through the lens of the camera.” . “Morgan, you make me believe in women again, and being a woman… A leader in a movement we don’t even know we need yet.” . “I feel braver, stronger and so connected to myself and my desires.” . I am beaming with pride and adoration for our #SexySelfieSexySoul Tribe! Thank you for sharing your journies with me. 🙏🏻 . Here is what I KNOW to be true: The lens can be so healing—when you have the right mindset, intention and tools. So many women have already experienced the healing power of the SexySelfieSexySoul practice and there’s so much MORE to teach you where this came from... . 78 of you have signed up to be a #SexySelfieSexySoul Beta Babe already! . Time is running out BUT it’s not too late to join us. . Sign up today (link in profile) for only $69 before it jumps it $99 on May 1st, and then $249 when the polished version gets released. . Oh yes! I love it when when women love themselves! Are learning to love themselves! Are inspiring other women to love themselves. And that’s the heart of what we are going to be doing together via the very modern medium of the 🤳 to heal our own gaze. 😍
Playful cougar vibes. . Just kidding, I am a married woman! And...I like the older boys. 😍👨🏽‍🦳😉 . For realsies...what it we could laugh more and bring a little more playfulness to our own sex lives and human sexuality? Not only would our romantic relationships benefit but our up-tight, stressed-out puritanical culture would too! And not to mention, we would be much happier as individuals! . The brain and the body crave novelty. Novelty. Laughter. Play. Delight. It all releases dopamine. And dopamine makes you and everyone around you feel happy, healthy, and whole. #humpdaysextips . One of the things I tell my couples (Scottsdale retreat this June!): Humor is hot and laughter lubricates. 😍 . Need a dose of dopamine other than your digital hits? Call in your goofy sexpot and PLAY! . (And if you need some direction on how to do this sign up for the Sexy Selfie course! Week three is all about PLAYFULNESS and how we can tap into it for sexual wholeness. Link in profile).